SHOULD HE PAY RENT? shortened version PLEASE HELP!!?

I was victim of a violent crime several months ago and now am forced to move to a new apartment. I am in mid-20s, my boyfriend is in his mid-30's (BTW, he was NOT the aggressor). I have been looking for a safe place to rent, and finally found one above a police officer who will look out for me. Currently, my boyfriend, who loves me and knows about my fear of being alone now, lives at his mom and dad's spare house rent free. In fact, he's never paid rent in his whole life! Because we are in a serious relationship, we stay at one another's place all the time. When I move to this apartment, it will be right by his new job (that I helped & encouraged him to get -he only worked 20 hrs/wk b4 this new full time job). I know that he will be over all the time! At least 3 nights/wk. Seeing as how he doesn't have any rent to pay at his house or when he's at mine, do you think that it's fair for me to ask him to pay 1/4 of the rent at my new apt. b/c he will be there a lot? We both think it is too soon to move in together, but knowing that he has no bills, and knowing that I need a safe place to live, even if it is more expensive, am I in the wrong to expect him to help me with 1/4 rent when he will stay with me often?? I asked him and he said that he'd stay w/me several times/wk b/c it's close to his job & to make me feel safe, but he said he doent want to pay rent b/c he wants to save for his own place or a down payment on a house. EVERYWHERE HE GOES/STAYS, SOMEONE ELSE PAYS HIS RENT!! I am mad b/c he will stay 1/2 the wk but wont help even w/util etc. I feel like he is used to getting a free ride & wont grow up even to help the one he loves in a reasonable way. I even offered to let him move him fully for the same price, which he declined b/c he said he'd just stay at his own place free instead. I want him to be a man and move out of mom's or at least pay something to someone who he says with. Am I being unfair and selfish?? WHAT DO YOU THINK???